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ImageFrom 1991 to 2006 I was kicked out, pushed out, or asked to leave more churches than most people will go to in their lifetime.  One was as benign as being behind the wrong pastor who was transferred to the last church experience was so traumatizing I couldn’t even think about entering a church again for several months without getting physically sick from the experience.  These experiences are what drove me to write my book “Run From Church.”  Don’t get me wrong, I am not against church.  There are some wonderful churches and ministries out there doing a great job of showing the love of God, helping the community, and are very nurturing to their members.  My problem comes from the ministries out there that are spiritually abusing their members, keeping them shrouded in fear or just plain brainwashing them, or even things as simple as preaching such legalistic messages that the members are put into bondage to try to live a life that they could never live up to.  This is where the problem is.

Did you know the largest growing sector or denomination of Christians is the unchurched?  Those who refuse to go or have other reasons as to why they do not feel the need to go to church?  I was doing research on the amount of people or percentage of people who have experienced spiritual abuse and did you know there are no statistics?  There are statistics on violence against women, violence against children, etc., but spiritual abuse is not on top of any of the lists out there.  The problem is that this is not a new problem, but most of the victims either say nothing about their experience or have no idea they are one of the victims.  You might be asking what do I mean by that, well look at these children or women who are kidnapped and then after several years have no desire to run away and even defend their captors because they think of them as their parent or spouse or whatever, as that is what they have been conditioned to feel.  I don’t understand it myself, but we all have coping behaviors that may seem weird or bizarre, but that is what keeps us sane.

The problem with spiritual abuse being such an unknown or unrecognized issue it makes the victims feel isolated or wonder why they are they are the only ones experiencing it.  You don’t hear about a spiritual abuse shelter or even a support group or class for spiritual abuse.  I am sure they are out there, but it isn’t something you see on TV, hear on the radio, or read about in the newspaper.  Just because you don’t hear about it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist, just means the victims are not as vocal or as willing to be out in the spotlight to show the problem, which is very sad.  Also, in my experience when you try to expose the truth or what is going on you run into a brick wall.  Either the pastor is in an independent church and doesn’t have any one over him to keep him accountable or the group that is keeping them in check is either ignoring the problem or using the “Don’t touch My anointed” scripture, which is being taken totally out of context to let the behavior continue.  That scripture was for in biblical time when the men of God were actually being physically hurt and people were being told to leave them alone, as they were on a mission from God, Himself, not to protect pastors who are teaching untruths, abusing members, or any other myriad of behaviors.  My point would be if the person was truly “anointed” then they wouldn’t be spouting untruths and acting against scriptures for their own gain, but that is for another post.

My book is wrote from my personal experiences, nothing made up, but all names and places are changed to not cause any issues as far as slander or such.  I just want my pain to have been for a good reason, to be to help others who find themselves in the same situation to be able to find the strength to get out either before the damage is done or before it totally destroys them.  Like I said, I’m not against church, I am just against churches and ministries that are hurting people in the name of God either due to ignorance, financial gain, or personal agenda.  You can get your copy at http://www.amazon.com/Run-From-Church-ebook/dp/B00B0ZRKF2/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1360435700&sr=8-1&keywords=run+from+church .  Till next time….

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